Procrastination

  I have been procrastinating. 1 full week of no school, no homework, and really, just an opportunity to be lazy. And did I ever, ever, use that to the fullest. I spent most of my days baking chocolate chip cookies, 42 freshly baked cookies gone in less than 2 days by my little brother and his ever growing friends, learning to cook Moroccan food (delicious!) watching chick flicks all night (thank goodness my habi watched it with me and actually liked it), shopping and the worst of it all, played Sims3 for an average of 6 hours a day. Did I or did I not say that I spent that 1 week to the fullest or what??? It was a.m.a.z.i.n.g. With the exception of having a bad stomach for 3 out of the 7 days… That was definitely not pretty.

 

Now, tomorrow is back to school, and I am feeling so pumped. Normally, I would be depressed, sad, and dreading the day when I have to wake up at 6 in the morning to catch the 7 a.m. bus just to be on time to my 8 a.m. math class which I skipped 1 full week of before reading week… But, I’m not any of those 3! I feel so well rested and ready for another 2 months of blood, sweat and tears!

 

I was reading a few posts regarding relationships and self-help...  And after awhile, I started to wonder, how many books does one have to read regarding the same topic until they actually understand that after reading 3+ or more books they basically say the same thing over again except in different words? Habi took me to Indigo yesterday night looking for a gift for a co-worker’s loved one, and while we were in the self-help and relationship section I was looking through some of those books and it dawned on to me. Honestly, it doesn’t matter how many books one reads because as long as they’re feeling like they have very little or to no motivation or self-esteem or continue to have relationship problems, they’re going to still keep buying those books and the authors are still going to publish more of those books saying the same thing over again. Why? Because it’s easy money. I don’t want to seem a little harsh or anything, but when I really think about it, it sort of make sense. This is what I briefly mean, and this is towards authors who give advice regarding self-help, relationships, and finance: having a difficult relationship or at a point where the mind is so confused due to self problems that it has difficulty trying to process factual information, the person tries to find a book that they think would help them. When reading the first book, the mind is in this sort of “wonder stage,” where it’s trying to sort out all the information read and attempt to understand it; this is really the only stage and book this person should actually read because eventually, it will make sense. However, the person is in denial regarding the information they read and they end up telling themselves to buy another book thinking that perhaps it will give them a completely different opinion, but we all know that it’s no different than the previous book they read. Eventually, after a few or more books, they come to a conclusion that they have to change their life and by changing their life they have to change themselves. How? To follow the steps of the book they bought. Wow, what a conclusion. And that is how those “become a millionaire” and “get out of debt” authors actually make money. They write books about basically the same thing, however they change a few words here and there. Of course that’s just my own opinion to those get rich quick authors and superficial readers.

 

So on a quick note, if you’re going to buy one of those books, be prepared to spend at least 1 hour at the bookstore looking through those books and actually making sure that the book you’re reading is going to be the only one you’re going to buy. Because really? They’re an average of $20+ for one book that pretty much says the same thing as the other. However, if you have tons of money or time and want to spend and/or have this self-assurance that what you’re actually reading is true, then by all means, no one’s stopping you. But, this sort of spending is definitely not recommended for students or anyone on financial budget.

 

So on an end note,  being an Louise L. Hay fan, and after reading one of her books, my habi chose this book of “Miracles.” It was reasonably priced at about $17.00 and seeing the circumstances of his co-worker,  this seemed to be the most appropriate. Not to sound a little hypocritical, I did read a couple of her books, and I do confess, she is a really good inspirational writer. Really. I did manage to get myself sucked into her works, and that does not happen often with those advice books.  You can purchase the book for roughly the same price on Amazon (I placed the link below) new or cheaper used, including shipping, or you can go to your nearest book store as well.

 

Anyways, that’s all folks. Enjoy your days!

 

 

 

 

 

Late Night.

I just finished watching “Just Go With It” starring Jennifer Aniston and Adam Sandler. I found it entertaining. It’s about this plastic surgeon (Adam Sandler) who posed as a married man every Friday night to hook up with some women; however, the only way he would get them is by making up this fake wife who beats him and treats him like dirt. Then, one day at a friends party he meets this pretty blonde girl who he ends up having this interest with. After a night together on the beach the girl asks for his number, and he tells her to get his business card in his pant pocket. She finds a ring there and that’s where everything began. He created this fake family story about him getting a divorce, but the girl insists on meeting this ‘wife’ of his. So his assistant (Jennifer Aniston) poses as his soon to be ex-wife. And that’s where I will stop talking about the movie. I will say this though, although my husband was on his computer working, he did manage to take a few peeks during the movie and during one scene he managed to say “Jennifer Aniston is so fucking hot.”  Maybe that’s a bit of an incentive to watch the movie. Hhh…

Here’s the link to the trailer.

After the movie, habi was talking to me about how every guy is different and this difference is what makes them want certain types of girls. This idea came from him listening to a conversation remix from the Backstreet Boys on youtube. Anyways, he gave me this example: One guy sang about him wanting to wake up in the morning to make breakfast, lunch and dinner for her. Another guy sang about him wanting the girl to do just that. Every guy because they’re all different is a perfect match for any girl out there. So when a guy says “your beautiful” or “you’re the one for me,” he’s not just saying that, it’s because you’re really beautiful to him and you’re really the one.

Please do not ignore his efforts. A true man, a real man, would do his best to make you feel like your the queen of the world and love you from the bottom of his heart. Of course guys do make stupid mistakes, and yeah it hurts. And you know what? Girls makes mistakes too, and guys end up getting hurt as well. The best quote I’ve heard and it’s from the movie “The Vow,” Rita Thorton says “I chose to stay with him for all the things he’s done right; not the things he’s done wrong. I chose to forgive him.” It sums up everything in that one sentence. Go back and list all the good and the bad of that person. Then cook a good dinner and when you’re both almost done tell him/her that you want to play a game. Tell him/her that this game needs both people to look deeply in each other’s eye and say all the things that you love about him/her. Try the game and be serious about it as well! Don’t overlook what he/she has done for you. They might be little, but it really does add up. Try it one day. It might just work.

I know I went a little off topic there, but I wanted to share this with everyone. I know that there is a lot of people that is having a difficult time in their relationship. Take a minute each day and think of at least one thing that the one person you love has done for you that made you smile. Sometimes, I see that movies and television can impair the realities of relationships and create this ‘image’ of how a relationship should be. But it’s not like that. When two different people come together to be a couple, of course their relationships are also going to be different. It’s just you and him/her and no one else really does matter. Don’t let anything take what you have away.

Love, real true love, is too precious to give away so easily. And trust me, when people see what you have, they DO become jealous and they will do their best to take it away from you. So fight for it!

***The best thing about being in Love is being able to live life with someone by your side, supporting you regardless of how difficult the task is at hand. ***

Good Luck Habi! You’re doing great!

Love.

Love is… How do I say this?…  There’s so many definitions of what Love is. However, from the inside and outside perspective, when you really take the time to look at love in its truest and ultimate form… It’s absolutely beautiful.

 

I’ve been through a lot; I mean… A LOT. And it’s all for this ‘thing’ called Love. I know it’s a pretty crazy feeling sometimes, and yeah, it does make people do some pretty crazy things. I should know, I’ve done some pretty crazy things that I’m not going to talk about right now—perhaps a little later. What I mean to say is, there is so many different ways a person can show how they love someone that its immeasurable. The sky’s the limit, literally. But, that is not all. Love is not only about a person, it could be about a thing, or even about life. That’s the most amazing thing about Love, it’s so universal.

 

I’m going to go on a journey. On this journey, I’m going to blog about the things that I love about life, and even perhaps dislike. There is so much to live for in this life, it definitely would be a waste to not live it.

 

And so… The journey begins. Stay tuned for my next post!